I attended a wedding last night. It was really a wonderful affair. I have never seen a couple look as thrilled about life and about each other.
I have been meaning to write this blog entry for a few days, but one of the songs played at the wedding finally got me to put pencil to paper. Some songs just should not be played at weddings. I suspect that people do not think about it. Bands like them for all sorts of reasons. Let me offer a few examples.
The band played the theme from "The Godfather." It is a wonderful piece of music. It is impossible to hear just the first few notes and not immediately recognize it. At the same time, the movie opens at the wedding of the Godfather's granddaughter. In the opening scenes, we see the funeral director asking for a special kindness from the Godfather, that the Godfather should have his people...motivate...the funeral director's son-in-law to be nicer to his wife, the funeral director's daughter. We know what happens through the rest of the movie.
We move on to the Police and "I'll Be Watching You." How lovely..."Every step you take, every move you make...I'll be watching you." It sounds so romantic. Sting wrote this song about stalking. Stalking is often present in abusive relationships, and is often lethal. It is not an appropriate wedding song.
"I will survive" - This song gets a great deal of play time because it has a wonderful disco beat, and thus motivates people to dance. It is about a woman who escaped an abusive relationship. Clergy should discuss abuse with couples as part of marriage preparation. It should not be a song at the wedding.
And last, "You've Lost That Loving Feeling." It is a lovely, slow tune, and again motivates people to dance. The title, however, says it all.
Have a good day everyone.